Things that really matter in life

Yes... It can happen. In fact, it happened to me last week.
I was so happy after having a treat at the hairdresser, colouring my hair and getting rid of the awful signs of ageing (more commonly known as grey hair) thinking that I would look great with my new colour.

My hair has had all the colours you can imagine. Through the years I had coloured it from blonde to copper (very orangy), light brown, purple and all the shades of red you can imagine. Yes, I love colouring my hair! But my husband has only seen a few of them and actually, he liked very much the ash blonde and light browns I used to have during the last years.

But I was looking for something new. So I decided to colour it dark brown, almost black. It really looked strange and at first I was not sure if I liked it, but anyway... you can't throw away money, so here you go, a new Morticia look!

When hubby arrived home, he looked at me with a funny face, as it was the first time he saw me in his life! I didn't know if I wanted to laugh or be upset. I could see in his face the so familiar signs of "What have you done???" but he knows me well, so didn't say a word. After dinner, I had to ask the question. "Do you like my hair?" And the answer, which I already knew, was NO!

Well, in the end, he's got used to it, even though he reminds me every now and then that next month I have to get it couloured back the way it was. And I will... but probably not to the way it was!

Yesterday I heard some bad news. A friend of mine is getting her position at the company she works under revision as it seems they are looking to reduce staff and make some people redundant. Well, I think that the economical crisis we are facing these days is somehow affecting each of us. It was sad to hear this news, as my friend has been there for a long time and was not making any plans to move to another company, as she was happy there. But such is life and probably it is time to move on and explore new horizons. Anyway, when one doors closes a window opens, so there must be something out there for her. Good luck!

This is an article I wrote recently based on my own experience and thought it would be nice to share.

When my marriage ended, I thought I would never fall in love with the same intensity again. Silly me! After two years I was madly in love with a person who was more than 20 years my senior and thought that this was the definite one. Again... silly me!

At the beginning it was all nice and exciting. I must say that, although I had been married before, I was still very young and this was a complete new experience for me. I learned many things and after three years I started wondering if this relationship was going somewhere, especially because at that time I was in my mid twenties and wanted a family, stability and, believe it or not... to be married again!

But unfortunately, I discovered that my partner didn't share the same enthusiasm. He was happy the way his life was and didn't think that it was necessary to talk about marriage. We were living in our own homes and not even the idea of living together crossed his mind. So my brain started to make me questions and sadly realized that the answers were not the ones that my heart wanted to hear.

I should have realized this was the first sign that I was in a bad relationship! But when you associate verbal and physical abuse to the concept of "bad relationship" it is difficult to admit that yours, which doesn't have those ingredients, may be one of those. As I said before, mine was full of great moments and experiences... but nothing else.

So the big question is: Are all bad relationships the same, or at least with the same characteristics? I don't know. Maybe the answer is that it all depends on what you are looking for and what is your final goal. And I realized mine was definitely not to be the eternal girlfriend or lover of an old man.

Once I accepted that I needed more than what I was getting from this relationship, it came the time of making decisions. Very difficult time! It is not that you stop loving the person, I was still in love and cared about him, but did not find the relationship fulfilling anymore. However, he thought that everything was perfect and that it could last forever. I wanted to share those thoughts and sometimes closed my eyes and tried to convince myself that it wasn't that bad... but no success. When my eyes were opened and looked around me, I could only see emptiness and no future.

I tried to convince myself that he really loved me, and even today I think he did. The question was, do I want to be loved this way? One day I answered that question and the answer came abruptly: NO. I tried to break up gently, explaining that we were not heading the same way and that I needed the commitment he was not willing to make. And always the same answer... I love you too much to let you go, and you love me the same way! Of course I loved him, but I was ready for commitment and responsibilities.... he wasn't.

It took me another four years to end the relationship. And I had to fight hard against my own feelings and realize that it was the best thing to do. I left the country and started a new life abroad. I met a great man who is now my husband and feel that I have now all what I always wanted.

So in the end, bad relationships not always show themselves as bad. They could be full of great moments and experiences, but it all depends on what you really want in life.

Today we are going to stay at a friend's flat in Brighton. The only downside is that is going to rain a lot!!!! but that should not be a surprise, as this is England and its English weather! Anyway, although we won't be able to enjoy the sun and the beach, we will still be able to have fun at home, chat and have some drinks.

It is amazing how fast time goes by and we are in August already! It seems yesterday that we were celebrating Christmas and here we are now, only four months away from Christmas again!!!! Very soon we will have to start thinking about the Christmas presents and the possible trip to spend the holidays with the families.

Well, meantime, enjoy the weekend and have fun!

When I was a kid, I thought that life was much more simple than it turned out to be. But well, who doesn't when you are a kid and don't have to worry about anything at all. Years go by and then you realise that life is not simple (silly me!).
But when do things start to change? I think it is when we finish school. When we are about to make one of the most important decisions in our lives. Then we realise that it was not as bad as we thought, but that can only be said when you are old enough to laugh about those days. Is it me or those years were the happiest in my life? How is it that my kids now seem so much complicated than I think I was at that age? Am I getting old? Uff, too many questions!
Have you experienced the same?